An End to Fat TalkPosted: January 20, 2011
I have some thoughts about fat talk, or negative self talk in general, but I wanted to share this quick video with you before I leap onto my soap box this morning. Let me know what you think!
Isn’t that such an empowering, motivating video? I saw it a while ago, and I thought it was appropriate for my little blog.
True Life: I am a recovering fat talker. I am not fat. But through lots of self reflection (hello, Counseling program!) I’ve had some great revelations that might (or might not!) mean something to you.
I’ve found that I retreat to fat comments when things in my life make me feel stressed, sad, anxious or overwhelmed. I don’t fat talk when I feel happy or proud. So when I “feel fat” I’m really trying to say “I feel stressed/anxious/overwhelmed.” Why is it easier to use the word fat rather than sad???
I’ve come to realize that fat talk and negative self talk are not just words. It’s like verbally punching yourself in the gut, you know? Those words like “Do I look fat?” or “God, I feel so fat!” stick around and leave bruises on your self-confidence. So, I thought: If negative words can have such a powerful effect, positive words can, too.
Every time I feel a “fat thought” or a self-defeating thought creep into my head, I push it away as fast as I can and replace it with a positive one. For instance, my “trouble area” is my stomach. I could obsess over it for ages. And actually, I have. But recently, when I feel my critical eyes wondering to my midsection or my thoughts becoming nasty, I focus on something I’m proud of (hint: it’s not always something physical!) So “I’ll never have abs” is pounced on by “I have a college degree” or “I can run six miles at a time.”
Admittedly, it’s difficult at first. And I still sometimes fall off the bandwagon when I feel like things are out of my control. When that happens though, I hop back up and get right back on that stinkin’ bandwagon! 😉 Either way, it’s something I’m truly dedicated to – and it’s actually worked. I don’t cut myself down nearly as much as I used to. You wouldn’t believe how productive your thoughts can be when you eliminate bashing yourself!
So, that’s what I think. Maybe it means something to you, maybe it doesn’t. But if you are a fat talker, try cutting it out. Let me know if it works for you.
Excuse me while I step down off my soap box 😉
I hope you all have a beautiful day!